“Your character is directly proportional to the length of your dress.”~ Society
“Why are you dressed like that? Do you want to give the wrong idea to men?”
“You shouldn’t show your curves to anyone.”
These are some of the statements I hear on a regular basis while shopping for dresses or wearing something that hugs my curves.
I’m mostly not allowed to wear dresses that don’t cover my hands and body completely because of the way men might view me and get “triggered” because of me.
The above rule of covering myself is supposed to be foolproof against a man’s lust (lust being the trigger here) and therefore rape, but most don’t understand that there’s a huge line, a mountain even, between lust and sexually assaulting someone.
Sexually assaulting someone means “forcing someone to have sex against their will”. Lust is “just a strong sexual desire”.
Saying that a strong sexual desire “triggered” a forced sexual act is like saying that simply looking at a weapon triggered the will to take away someone’s life forcefully.
Now, we all know that killing people just because the murderer saw a gun is the most messed up reason for murder cause the person wielding the gun had a choice to put the gun away and not into somebody else’s head.
We know that looking at a gun is okay but taking away someone’s life isn’t.
So, how hard is it to understand that lust is okay but sexual assault isn’t?
Wouldn’t it be better if we teach our kids about protected, consensual sex instead of skirting around sex and avoiding the topic like a plague?
Still, I’m not allowed to reason against this rule because that would be blasphemous or reflect a poor upbringing by my parents. That’s how things roll here.
A dress is just a dress, not a trigger.
A woman is a living, breathing human, not an object.
No reason is good enough to justify something like rape and this goes for both men and women.
Stop pinning “sexual assault” on lame reasons like dress and start focusing on the issue at hand instead.